A Woman's Desire to Desired

Women often get a bad reputation for being high maintenance, needy, overly dramatic, complicated, and just impossible to figure out, but really, women just want to be desired.

Women are simple really. We want to be loved and told that we are smart, loving, godly, and BEAUTIFUL.

Every woman wants to marry a man who desires her and desires to be with her, is that wrong?

Not at all!

You definitely DON’T want to marry a guy who DOESN’T want to be around you and DOESN’T desire you!

Although I am not sure when it begins in a woman’s life, I am sure that every woman desires to be desired.

This desire is both exciting and scary. It can be both a blessing and a downfall.

It’s exciting when you find the love that you have been praying for your whole life and it is so much better than you could have ever imagined!

But it’s scary when you realize that in order to love and be fully loved, you have to be transparent. You have to let that person get to know the REAL YOU.

But what if they don’t like the real you?

Many women are convinced that they need to pretend to be someone they are not all with the hopes of securing love from a man.
Other women do inappropriate things to gain a man’s attention, affection, and desire.

Some women use their looks and flirting skills to arouse men because they feel a sense of power when they are able to make a man fall for her.

Regardless if you are being yourself, manipulating men, or if you are pretending to be a woman you are not, God knows.

He created us with a desire to be desired and loved, but we won’t ever know or comprehend this love if we never take time to first know and accept His love.

You can waste a whole lifetime searching for love, going to self-help classes, and analyzing your past relationships, but without first understanding who God says you are, you will never fill your God-given desire to be desired.

Psalm 139:17-18 reads, “How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. When I awake, I am still with You.”

I know that I will never find a guy who thinks of me as in a way that his thoughts about me “outnumber the sand.” Outside of God, that much thinking about one person is not humanly possible. That is a whole lot of desire.

The next time you think you need the attention and affection of a man in order to feel good about yourself, try reading the Bible and discover all of the amazing things that God wrote about you.

For the record, desiring and receiving attention from men is not a bad thing in and of itself, more so, it is your motives and how you handle the attention that God is really concerned about.

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Lindsey N. Isham


1 Comment
  1. Hi Linds. Haven’t read an article from or by you in a long while, but I tell you, this one is “top drawer” . Much prayer and blessings for you.

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