My best friend is a combination of Matthew McConaughey and McDreamy. He is charming, good looking, polite, and a great listener; everywhere he goes women seem to fall in love with him. (No exaggeration).
He’s got something that just naturally attracts women, and I want to share with all the men out there who need a little of what he’s got.
Tips on How to Attract the Right Woman
1. Be a Man of integrity
Don’t lead women on; be a man of your word- when you say no, mean it, when you say you will do something, do it. Have high expectations for women you date and stick to them. Women love a man who will keep her sexually pure… (this actually drives some women so crazy that they will try anything to get you to have sex with them – but this is another article altogether.)
2. Take Care of Your Body (and everything else)
Women are looking to marry a man who has his stuff together. The Bible says to “love others as you love yourself” but if it doesn’t look like you love yourself at all, no woman is going to be eager to throw herself into your arms. Men, show women everywhere (by the way you maintain good hygiene and physical fitness, an excellent work ethic, how you keep your place clean, with your cooking skills, entrepreneurial endeavors, etc.) that you can take care of yourself and eventually a wife and kids.
A huge part of taking care of your body and all other aspects of life comes from establishing your priorities and setting healthy boundaries with others, your time, and talents. Get good at something and focus on it and work in such a way that you will be able to eventually provide for your family.
Women love to laugh (or at least the kind of woman you should want to be with does), so make it a priority to enjoy life, smile and laugh… you will be surprised at how contagious this can be.
Men, get good at loving and being selfless. Show others with your words and actions that you care about their needs, interests, and feelings. It can be as simple as listening when people need to talk, giving good advice, or praying for them.
Every woman wants a man who is living on purpose with a purpose. A man who talks to God frequently and listens to Him is the kind of man who women want to be with. We don’t want to follow (or be led) by a man who follows trends or his latest whim; we want to be led by a man who is following God.
Also, pray for your future wife long before you meet her. When you meet a woman you are interested in and start to build a friendship with her, ask her how you can pray for her and then follow up to see how she is doing. By your faithfulness to intercede for her, she will be more inclined to trust you with her heart.
6. Be a Gentleman
My guy friend told me about how he took this woman out on a date and made sure to walk closest to the road as they walked to the restaurant. This is a normal thing that he does along with opening car doors, etc., so he thought nothing of it. But later that week the woman emailed him and told him she was honored by how he was such a gentleman and she thanked him for walking closest to the street.
Something so simple as walking closest to the street wins over women everywhere… why?
Here is the secret to what women want: We want a man who will look out for us, a man we can trust to care for and protect us. We want a man who will be more concerned with our needs than his own (as women should be more concerned with her man’s needs than hers).
In marriage, when “the two become one” you both will be happier and more blessed by selfless, not selfish. Practice being a selfless man today, and you will have women everywhere wanting to marry you. (Not that this should be the motivation or goal for acting like a gentleman, but this will definitely be the outcome).
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Lindsey N. Isham